Wednesday, June 8, 2016
6/8/16 (Wed) The 30 Day Solution - Changing My Response
So I am beginning the book I bought called - The 30 Day Solution. I like that it clearly spells out steps to think about and do for 30 days along with a companion website full of checklists, resources and recordings.
Day 1 of the program talks about starting a journal to record all of the action steps - check - I'll just do it here for my own future reference.
The next thing is to take a before picture - not going to show that today haha and schedule a dr appt with blood work - check
Next - think about E + R = O (event + response = outcome)
It is described as "paying attention to moments when you are complaining about or blaming an event rather than focusing on creating a new response that can change the outcome."
I suppose people can interpret this differently. For me it applies to avoiding social situations when not drinking.
In the past while drinking
E (social event) + R (pre-drinking/over-drinking) = O (hangover, regret, insomnia, depression, anxiety)
In the past while not drinking
E (social event) + R (not attending/hosting) = O (isolation, loneliness, depression)
What I would like for the future
E (social event) + R (attending and not drinking) = O (being able to socialize sober without embarrassing myself and wake up without a hangover feeling proud, happy, at peace)
I need to change my response. Instead of just staying home and complaining about not being able to drink and therefore not wanting to go, I need to go, stay sober, have a good time and learn that I don't need alcohol to socialize and have fun. If I don't ever change my response, I am never going to learn anything differently and then change my outcome. That is something new to think about.
Lastly - listen to the Time Travel Technique - guided meditation
OMG!!!I am not that easily influenced by stuff like this but I found myself going through a range of intense emotions and physical responses. When I put myself in the timeline 1, 5 and 10 years in the future while continuing to drink I seriously started crying. I felt stuck, sad, lonely, exhausted and confused. When I then put myself in the future by 1, 5 and 10 years of sobriety I seriously sat up straight, uncrossed my legs, felt myself open up to the possibility and actually started smiling. This was an incredible exercise that I will definitely listen to every time I question my desire to quit drinking! Amazing!
PS - This is not an advertisement for the book lol! I just use my blog to record my thoughts about my journey. But - so far so good :)