Well, today is the day that I meet everyone at my old school and go to the brewery after for a happy hour. I have been super nervous even though I realize it probably won't be a big deal. My dh husband just says, "Don't go if you don't want to." I feel like I probably should as these are new colleagues.
Here is my plan for the happy hour.
If a lot pf people aren't even going, neither am I. I will just duck out quietly.
If I am having an anxiety attack about it, I will make something up as to why I can't go. My dog really has been having some hip problems. I will say that my son got home and the dog couldn't even walk so I need to get him to the vet.
Best case scenario - I do go, order a kombucha and socialize for about an hour - really being present in the conversations and showing interest in other people (as opposed to dominating conversations as I did when I drank...always trying to be the funny/cool/interesting one getting pretty loud) and then go home.
No big deal. These people will just know me as someone who doesn't drink but has fun anyway.
Very wise of you to plan ahead. I think the dog excuse is brilliant and sounds sincere. No one could argue with that. Good luck! I will be cheering you on.
ReplyDeleteTry not to feel like you need a reason to do what you want.
ReplyDeleteIf you choose to leave just say you have plans.
They will see you as someone who has a life outside work.
Have fun
Anne