Monday, February 9, 2015

What do I say to that?

Yesterday I had my whole family over for dinner.  It was fine. I didn't have any cravings at all.  No one else was drinking either which helps.  I'm sure if I was drinking the wine would have been flowing. The rest of my family is lucky enough to be able to take it or leave it and not care either way.

My sister's boyfriend (of 8 years) just blurted out, "You can't go out with us anymore until you start drinking again.  I miss the fun you.  This is the boring you."

I know he was joking around (sort of). He doesn't even drink very often, just laughs at us when we do. He is an Italian from Chicago so I suspect he can be as loud as he wants when we are all drinking because we are also loud. But.....

What am I supposed to say to that?


  1. First, my sympathies to you on this one. I really have no love for that kind of aggressive humour. I think the only thing to do is smile and ignore him. Or if you wan to be cheeky, maybe tell him it's his turn to be the entertainment. Either way, it will pass. People don't always like it when something shifts in the social world. But they usually learn to cope.

    If the problem is you feeling like you're not having fun, that's a different matter. Then I would say it's time to find things you really enjoy doing and get doing them, with other people. Either way, it's for your enjoyment, not so your sister's boyfriend has his evening's laughs supplied!

    Sounds like you're doing great, though! I'm glad dinner went well. Take care. xo

  2. You say nothing. Its powerful not to have to respond. His comments are a reflection on him, not you. TMary