Today I decided that I have only one New Year's Resolution. That is to not to drink. I am kind of an all or nothing kind of person. On January 1st, I had decided I was not going to drink, go to the gym, eat healthy and go to bed early.
Well, I slept terrible last night and did not make it to the gym. I started feeling down on myself for not going. I don't think those feelings are going to help me remain sober.
I decided my first and foremost goal would be to not drink. If I go to the gym, awesome! If not, it's OK - you didn't drink! If I eat healthy - awesome! If I eat some ice cream - well at least I didn't drink. If I get to bed early - awesome! If not (because I am up late reading all of the recovery literature) - at least I didn't drink.
I read somewhere that I need to put as much energy into my absing as I did into my drinking and then my attempting to moderate. I know all of those other things are good for me and will help my health and sense of well being - but not if I am going to beat myself up every time I am not perfect.
The only thing that needs to be perfect right now is my sobriety.
Great post. Trying to do it all is always my biggest downfall. Choosing one good goal is healthy. Progress, not perfection.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing.