Well, I had been sober for 255 days yesterday. The last time I posted I was my birthday in January. Since then, things had been going pretty well, except my lack of energy. I had been sober for 8 and a half months and I just could not seem to get my energy back. I couldn't get to the gym, I couldn't get things checked of my to do list on the weekends...I just had no drive, no purpose, no energy at all.
With alcohol I was doing pretty good. I even went to a couple of socials events, didn't drink and still had fun. Everyone was so proud of my, and I was proud of myself, but just felt lifeless.
I have come to realize that it isn't necessarily the "buzz" that I miss so much...i don't really miss feeling a little out of it and not 100% present which I have really enjoyed this last 255 days. It is the anticipation of the environment of the "buzz." I used to live for the weekends. I would look so forward to doing things and being social. It almost gave me energy. I know I was probably just looking forward to feeding my addiction, but I really have not missed that "buzzed" feeling. I really do miss looking forward to something. Everything just seems so boring and drab and lifeless.
I have been overall much happier with my own sense of well being these last few months, but have also sort of slipped into this depressed boredom.
Last night we went to dinner with my sister and her boyfriend. We have all had our differences in the past and I was so looking forward to this "rekindling" of our relationship. We got there and she was having a glass of red wine, and I found myself literally overcome with jealously and anxiety. I couldn't even carry on a conversation. It just hit me out of the blue. I could tell they were uncomfortable with the fact that I wasn't drinking. I was uncomfortable. I so desperately don't want it to be like that. I look around the really nice steak restaurant and see all the table enjoying a glass of wine and I suddenly get pissed off. I want to have a glass of wine dammit! I want to sit here, have a nice adult dinner with my sister and enjoy a glass of wine, dammit! I couldn't even focus! It was crazy! Before you knew it, I had ordered and was enjoying a glass of red wine.
I don't know how I feel about it. On the one hand I slept like crap...I had hot flashes all night. That hasn't happened in about 7 months so I know it was the alcohol and I am more tired than usual today. I know that I feel much better when I don't drink, but I am not emotionally beating myself up. i promised myself last night that I wouldn't do that if I chose to have a glass of wine. I am a little disappointed that I didn't make it a year and am not sure if I will drink again.
On the other hand it I know that I can have a glass of wine once in a while, I sure am looking a lot more to summer and the vacations we have planned.
I am sorry to let you guys down, but "it is what it is" as they say and I always promised to keep it truthful in my blog.
You haven't let anyone down. It's life. It's a new day full of potential. Run with it. :)
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