tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post8838481996584196539..comments2023-09-29T01:14:31.892-07:00Comments on struggles with alcohol: 4/27/18 (Fri) Let's be clearksusierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10343865771089367055noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-49891849411008703782018-04-30T10:24:59.142-07:002018-04-30T10:24:59.142-07:00I go to AA, and I had a wonderful teaching career,...I go to AA, and I had a wonderful teaching career, and never had a DUI, etc. But I still had a drinking problem.<br />Lots of people get sober in many ways, but if what you are doing isn't working, then you have to change something.<br />I know I tried by myself, and that didn't work. I finally did everything, because I knew I had to quit. Therapist, life coach, aa, blogging, Belles' program, asking friends and family for support.<br />Not everyone is like me.<br />But these things helped me.<br />xo<br />WendyUntipsyteacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14975521042875808241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-81633243743020140102018-04-28T11:13:20.043-07:002018-04-28T11:13:20.043-07:00Right, it doesn't matter how much you drink! I...Right, it doesn't matter how much you drink! It's how drinking makes you feel. If you're obsessing over it and failing to control it, it doesn't matter if you're drinking a glass of wine or a bottle a day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-2318673034428528162018-04-28T09:15:06.016-07:002018-04-28T09:15:06.016-07:00It take people like me and you to show how awesome...It take people like me and you to show how awesome it is to change the world.Ainsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-36321735949155105902018-04-28T09:14:32.685-07:002018-04-28T09:14:32.685-07:00The truth is most of us reply to comments like thi...The truth is most of us reply to comments like this because it insinuates that we were all much worse than you are. It is that mistaken belief that you have to be a drunk to be use aa that keeps people drinking. It’s very common and it is an assumption made about aa by someone who has never been and has not found the connection and honestly that can be found in recovery support.<br /><br />The truth is, many people at aa are just like me. An upper middle class professional with cars, houses, live in help and a good education and upbringing.<br /><br />Addiction does not care.<br /><br />Hugs. Keep trying to move forward.<br />Anne<br />Ainsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-36531937908502102122018-04-28T06:12:37.591-07:002018-04-28T06:12:37.591-07:00This may be a form of denial...but I am not that b...This may be a form of denial...but I am not that bad yet, so I don't need to go to to a meeting. The key word, I realize, is yet.ksusierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10343865771089367055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-67234042302779334662018-04-28T06:11:32.008-07:002018-04-28T06:11:32.008-07:00I actually was a little mad when the comments said...I actually was a little mad when the comments said I was in denial that I have a problem bc that is not trueksusierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10343865771089367055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-25956125693180885532018-04-28T06:10:56.658-07:002018-04-28T06:10:56.658-07:00No, no, no...)No, no, no...)ksusierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10343865771089367055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-45959684325418951502018-04-28T06:09:42.495-07:002018-04-28T06:09:42.495-07:00I have actually considered finding a counselor tha...I have actually considered finding a counselor that deals with addiction and childhood trauma. The thought of that terrifies me so I keep telling myself if I can't do it on my own, then I will do that. SO far, as crazy as it seems, I haven't admitted to myself that I can't do it on my own. Maybe that is the denial people are referring to.ksusierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10343865771089367055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-10771585927683513622018-04-28T06:07:15.986-07:002018-04-28T06:07:15.986-07:00I sure wish being sober would be as popular at not...I sure wish being sober would be as popular at not smoking. It sure would make it easier.ksusierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10343865771089367055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-26907398216174508612018-04-28T06:06:04.281-07:002018-04-28T06:06:04.281-07:00It is exactly like thatIt is exactly like thatksusierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10343865771089367055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-72747487261892777522018-04-27T22:42:36.116-07:002018-04-27T22:42:36.116-07:00ok.
Do it! Take the big plunge and change it all. ...ok.<br />Do it! Take the big plunge and change it all. Maybe it will be exactly what you need. I desperately hope so, for you. We all do it different. And you will never know until you give this 100% effort.<br />Have you considered a life coach who also focuses on sobriety? Maybe that would be the accountability you need to make all these changes happen.<br /><br />Honestly, any plan can work. A person just has to do the work to complete it.<br />Anne<br />Ainsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-26353142857777869422018-04-27T16:56:02.996-07:002018-04-27T16:56:02.996-07:00Please don't be mad, ksusier. Sweetie, this is...Please don't be mad, ksusier. Sweetie, this is your show and you can play it however you choose. Those comments might seem harsh, no doubt, Chica. But know these folks love you and are responding from that space. Please pay attention to Anne - she has it togetherAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-13268665676506338792018-04-27T16:36:47.553-07:002018-04-27T16:36:47.553-07:00Meeting, meeting, meeting...:)Meeting, meeting, meeting...:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-13132400370236811832018-04-27T14:55:27.075-07:002018-04-27T14:55:27.075-07:00I think quitting alcohol is especially difficult b...I think quitting alcohol is especially difficult because our culture doesn’t support it. When someone quits smoking, they tell people with pride. And everybody says good job that’s so awesome. There’s lots of support. And no shame around “having a problem with nicotine.” No one suggest you have just one cigarette or just smoke on special occasions. No one worries people won’t like them because they don’t smoke. Quitting anything addictive requires support. With alcohol the support is harder to find. I understand not wanting to go to a meeting, but how about seeing a counselor?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11020969931266556413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-65525360186255488392018-04-27T09:46:08.844-07:002018-04-27T09:46:08.844-07:00I was alcohol dependent for years - it gets worse ...I was alcohol dependent for years - it gets worse - it's a progressive disease - I too wasn't going to go to meetings... I had the gift of desperation when I became so depressed and progressively dependent that I stopped eating - then ended up in the hospital - twice... Realized I had to ask for help and do something different - treatment and AA have worked for me. We are all pulling for you. There is a saying in AA that you can be as miserable as you want for as long as you want. I encourage you to try different not harder. Try a women's AA meeting - you will meet many wonderful supportive people. People have an idea (I know I did) of what a meeting would be like and I was completely wrong. Wishing you well!! There is freedom.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-13972170205386372722018-04-27T07:15:46.626-07:002018-04-27T07:15:46.626-07:00This kind of reminds me of dieting. One can diet a...This kind of reminds me of dieting. One can diet and lose weight. Lots of times, the weight is gained back, so the diet begins again, and weight is lost.Then, we gain weight. Then, we can't bear to diet again...we cannot even get started...we give up...we binge, promising to stop on Monday, or promising that we won't binge tomorrow...What I'm trying to say, is that we get tired of trying, our minds our like...forget it...we just can't.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com