tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post8806150387140725556..comments2023-09-29T01:14:31.892-07:00Comments on struggles with alcohol: 5/9/17 (Mon) Disastrous Saturdayksusierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10343865771089367055noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-40499402018465622017-05-10T05:06:07.123-07:002017-05-10T05:06:07.123-07:00Thanks, Anne. It is a new concept for me to dista...Thanks, Anne. It is a new concept for me to distance myself from my family. I always thought if I tried hard enough I could force everyone into this perfect little family that I had constructed in my head. I have always felt guilty if I haven't tried to fix things. ksusierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10343865771089367055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-88006859189188118742017-05-09T10:10:05.873-07:002017-05-09T10:10:05.873-07:00Codependency within families is a complicated thin...Codependency within families is a complicated thing.<br />The only one who you can make do what you want is yourself. No tears, anger, kindness or bribery can make others act how you want.<br />I used to be the family peace keeper. I felt it was my job to ensure everyone got along. <br />It exhausted me and crushed me whenever things didn't go that way,<br /><br />By taking control of my own mental health and sobriety and forming my boundaries to support myself I have needed that. To do so I have seriously limited my contact with my family.<br /><br />It allowed me the space to remind myself. Not the me who put others needs first, but the me who acts out of compassion and self love.<br /><br />It's worth considering. <br /><br />Anne<br />Ainsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-25320036179032672512017-05-09T05:01:53.622-07:002017-05-09T05:01:53.622-07:00Thanks Wendy. It is true the only one that I make ...Thanks Wendy. It is true the only one that I make miserable by drinking is me. It is just so hard for me to accept that everything in my family can't be the way I want it to be. I have tried for so long, but I think I might be the only one trying...ksusierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10343865771089367055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-18075276961681314952017-05-08T14:46:01.610-07:002017-05-08T14:46:01.610-07:00The thing is, the only thing that happens when you...The thing is, the only thing that happens when you drink because of resentment, is that you get hurt.<br />Your mom and sister won't care.<br />Nothing gets solved, fixed, or made different.<br />(I know you probably know this, but thought I'd remind you.)<br />You do need to care for yourself, and if that means you can't be around some family members, it may have to be that way. (My opinion) <br />xo<br />Wendy<br /><br /><br />Untipsyteacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14975521042875808241noreply@blogger.com