tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post7882762403108769381..comments2023-09-29T01:14:31.892-07:00Comments on struggles with alcohol: 7/28/18 Bad Dayksusierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10343865771089367055noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-62336846277191179052018-07-29T09:24:01.070-07:002018-07-29T09:24:01.070-07:00Good advice above.
Vacations are for me now. The f...Good advice above.<br />Vacations are for me now. The first one I was pouty, but then I realized how better they were without all the hangovers!<br />Learning to let go of resentments is super important. I can't control others, so I can only control what I do, think or feel.<br />xo<br />WendyUntipsyteacherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14975521042875808241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-2418612800154487342018-07-29T05:57:25.173-07:002018-07-29T05:57:25.173-07:00I went on vacation to Maui in January. It was my ...I went on vacation to Maui in January. It was my first truly sober vacation. I had some of the same thoughts you are having, but I did not drink...and I had a great vacation. It was lovely to wake up in paradise every morning feeling great and ready to get out the door for a run. It was moderately annoying listening to people order their drinks at the pool, but I didn't dwell on it and those feelings didn't last. My husband and I used to enjoy sitting on the deck with a cocktail while we watched the sun set. This time I found out sunsets are still beautiful in Maui without a drink. And dinner tasted better without my senses dulled. Instead of focusing on what you can't have (that drink) try to find some things to get excited about that you can do because you didn't drink...like getting up in the morning for a run or yoga or hike. Plan it out and research where you will go in advance so you can look forward to it. Then go on your vacation and enjoy those things!heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00731656839925113161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-44518401198021632742018-07-28T16:07:22.364-07:002018-07-28T16:07:22.364-07:00Good thoughts here.
Do you have a sober buddy? Hav...Good thoughts here.<br />Do you have a sober buddy? Have you looked into sober supports where you are travelling? Have you asked your husband to have a sober holiday with you?<br />All things to consider. Leaving your comfort zone...Ainsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-19837033879172586212018-07-28T16:05:39.466-07:002018-07-28T16:05:39.466-07:00It might be worth focusing on having a relaxing an...It might be worth focusing on having a relaxing and fun vacation, rather than a restrictive sober vacation where you can’t drink.<br /><br />The truth is you have chosen to not drink anymore because it’s made your life unmanageable. It’s not adding anything, and it had become a risk that it could take more.<br /><br />That’s a self confident and compassionate choice. <br /><br />As for your son...resentment is a dangerous thing for and addict. It leads us to wanting to drink the poison and hope some else dies. That’s where the self awareness you are building serves you. You did not choose to drink and blame your son. Because you are no longer allowing others to rule your life.<br /><br />It’s ok to be disappointed, but he is not responsible for your happiness. You are.<br /><br />This is a perfect example f a day that would have led you to drinking in the past. Instead you took care of yourself. It sucks, but that’s life.<br /><br />Great job. Keep thinking of all the great aspects of your vacation thatyou will enjoy because you don’t drink. It’s not easy, but it’s trying yourself to see the joy.<br /><br />Hug<br />AnneAinsobrietyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642935819165465190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-41262973718109391462018-07-28T08:34:24.380-07:002018-07-28T08:34:24.380-07:00Days like that suck, and it's hard to not have...Days like that suck, and it's hard to not have alcohol to get through them. Really feeling your feelings, getting upset, and sitting with the discomfort is tough. I do think it gets easier with practice and longer term sobriety - it's not that you won't have bad days, but you'll be used to dealing with them head on, and won't crave alcohol. All the work you've done around recognizing your addicted voice ("oh, I'm not that bad - I just need to moderate") is really important - now you know that voice isn't rational, it's dangerous and can't be trusted. Also, kudos to thinking through the drink - really thinking about the consequences of drinking is the number one thing that got me through cravings in the early days. <br /><br />Is there anyone in your group you can call when you have days like this? When you're feeling bad and thinking about drinking, texting or calling a sober friend is SO valuable.<br /><br />Have you thought about the sober tools you'll use when you're on vacation? I'm worried for you, since vacations have been hard for you in the past. <br /><br />Anyway, so impressed by your progress! It's been so inspiring to see how much your thinking has grown since you started going to treatment. Keep on pushing on!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com