tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post1286230241778454197..comments2023-09-29T01:14:31.892-07:00Comments on struggles with alcohol: You buy the first roundksusierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10343865771089367055noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-92126234528254719102015-02-19T09:16:25.494-08:002015-02-19T09:16:25.494-08:00I have two thoughts...
First, no one is stopping ...I have two thoughts...<br /><br />First, no one is stopping you from drinking. If you want that beer or glass of wine the decision is totally up to you. When I realized this something happened to me - like I flipped a switch or something. Once I realized that no one was telling me "no", I stopped acting like a stubborn child who just wants to assert her independence. "You're not the boss of me!"<br /><br />That's when I realized that I am the boss of me. I don't know how to explain it but that changed my perspective. That does not mean that I don't throw a hissy fit, pout and bitch and moan from time to time because I do (waaaay less than I used to...but still). It just means that when I took back my power things...changed.<br /><br />My second point is that you CAN go out and belong. You CAN buy the first round. When I first got sober I used to do this all the time and just drink diet coke. I felt like I needed to belong. Now I just say no thank you because I've realized that I really don't like bars all that much anymore. But in the beginning, I used to go and drink the hell out of diet coke all night long.<br /><br />You'll get through this if you want to. I know you can do it. <br /><br />SherrySoberMomWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04845259535764391849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4561779952062755742.post-41440926674637041652015-02-19T05:44:30.577-08:002015-02-19T05:44:30.577-08:00Hey there! Way to fight a bad night of stinking t...Hey there! Way to fight a bad night of stinking thinking. I have enjoyed seeing you progress the last two months with 47 posts, it is great hearing you stay on the path of sobriety. You have posted more in a month and half than you did in all of 2013 and 2014!<br /><br />You have a great archive that documents all the past times you drank and regretted it sooooooooooooo MUCH! It always gets bad for you after a period of time when you start drinking. It is the same way for me and see your struggles reminds me that I can't drink. Seeing you get betters reminds me I can get better too.<br /><br />I think it is hard for you in part because while you have the blog and online groups for support that you have, from what I can tell, you have no one in real life to be supportive of your sobriety. You are alone and you seem isolated. Maybe check out some type of peer group community in real life where you look people in the eye balls and can discuss trying to not drink. There are a lot of alternatives out there from Women for Sobriety, AA, Smart Recovery, etc. <br /><br />Keep it up! When you drink you don't post and I will miss hearing from you. Get Up Fly Awayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16729870081177496785noreply@blogger.com